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Comment on How does a mother know if they are secure in their parenting skills? by ohiopinktiger

ohiopinktiger — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 12:56:38 +0000

my mother says that you never really know, you just hope that you are able to raise them with morals and a good sense of right and wrong. just do the best that you can and take any advise you are given.

Comment on How does a mother know if they are secure in their parenting skills? by jcl

jcl — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 12:51:28 +0000

For me, it’s having a sense of peace and then being able to laugh at myself the rest of the time! My daughter is still very young but I found that spending as much time together as possible – holding her skin-to-skin – in the first few months made a huge difference. When I feel off my game or out of sync with her, I try to shelve everything else and just spend the day with her. It’s hard to get help to do this and it means I have to lose a little sleep making up the time but it’s worth it.

Comment on What is the best parenting book currently on the Market? by mgnavadomskis

mgnavadomskis — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 23:57:05 +0000

“Parenting with Love and Logic” is my favorite for once your child starts moving around.

While still a baby, Dr Sears’ Baby Book has some great ideas!

Comment on What is the best parenting book currently on the Market? by jks707

jks707 — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 23:13:57 +0000

Hey Congrats for going to be mother soon.There are so many book in the market.I suggest you dont waste time reading it,just refer to the bible and get your parenting tips from your mum.

Comment on Im doing a project on parents lying to their children. To what extent is Pinocchio parenting acceptable? by mommy20

mommy20 — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:52:53 +0000

I think letting a child be a child for a while and believing in things is healthy. it developes the childs imagniation and lets them think out of the box as well which helps them later in life they won’t be so closed mind they will have better problem solving…(you can look it up online) as for lieing lieing and telling your child what a beautiful drawing. is all parenting how people raised their children, my mom said she never lied to me when i asked to would tell me the correct answer maybe limited but truthful and my son is 3 and i don’t lie to him, he is starting to draw now and color, and when he shows me i say wow thats interesting drawing bc it is interesting i wanna know what it is, or i will say wow wats that, and he will tell, and when he ask if i like it, i do say yes, bc he will try to draw our dog and house…. so it’s all about wording… when my child ask me a question that i think he is too small or young to know the whole truth about i dnt lie i just tell him that he’s little and i will tell him when he is bigger.

but i think most parents tell lil fibs like the drawing to keep thier child happy and to make them want to draw again and to be positive. and for behavior parents do it too keep and order to thier house and rules and sometimes even to keep thier child safe.

i think lieing or fibbing to most to keep a child happy and safe is acceptable to most. and i don’t think parents realize that they are being hypocrites. or that telling that lil fib is a lie to them

best of luck on ur project

Comment on Im doing a project on parents lying to their children. To what extent is Pinocchio parenting acceptable? by Amy

Amy — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:49:12 +0000

I think that most lying is unacceptable. Some is okay, like my mom replacing my goldfish in the middle of the night because she knew I would cry for days if I had seen the poor thing. However I refuse to tell my kids that Santa brings them presents or that the tooth fairy will take away their teeth. My mom tried to explain to me that Santa isn’t real but my grams somewhat undermined her. Lying because you want a child to stop doing something isn’t a good idea ever. Your children will find out and resent you later.. (Like being told I’d get in trouble with the policeman if I rode my bike too far into the neighborhood street. Or that they would throw me out of school if I didn’t get good grades). Telling Tommy he did a great job on the drawing is better than just saying it’s beautiful. You are no longer lying to him and just praising him for working hard on it.

Comment on What is your parenting philosophy when asked by adoption agencies? by wholelottacats

wholelottacats — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:06:46 +0000

As others have said, there really isn’t a “right” answer – they want to get to know you and have a sense of your attitudes about parenting.

If there were a “right” answer, it would be pretty much what Gaia said – it depends on the child. They are looking for you to show some flexibility in your answers, some recognition that every child is different, will need to be parented differently, and maybe even receive a different parenting technique on a different day.

Talk about things and different situations with your husband, keeping this in mind. You won’t really know what you’ll do until you meet this child and are in the situation, but recognizing that you’ll have to adapt your ideas to the particular needs of the child is half the battle.

Good luck to you!

Comment on Im doing a project on parents lying to their children. To what extent is Pinocchio parenting acceptable? by Mary

Mary — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 16:49:43 +0000

I have children and I think that you should always try to be as honest as possible. Yes sometimes we do have to say things to get a point across that might not be true, but for the most part our children represent who you are and you would want to deal with them with an even hand. Once you start out lying what will stop you. How do you clean up a lye and whom else would you lye to and to what extent. Now I would lye to save my life , but on the real I keep it real in the name of respect.

Comment on What is your parenting philosophy when asked by adoption agencies? by Heather B

Heather B — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 16:19:55 +0000

I think the idea is that you give your own parenting philosophy, not what someone else put down as theirs. Don’t you have one

Comment on What is your parenting philosophy when asked by adoption agencies? by Lynnae

Lynnae — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 15:22:06 +0000

I have never adopted, but I am a mom of 4 and have been told we have excellent parenting skills and advice.

I would say that you intend to raise your children to be individuals with love and attention. Each child has his/her own personality and needs – parents have to give children the kind of attention whatever each one requires to grow up healthy, happy, confident and able to make good choices when they are an adult – that’s the goal! Your intent is to raise your child, helping them find their strengths, working on their weaknesses and ultimitely becoming a success in whatever they were born to do.

Example – I have 4 and I don’t parent my children exactly the same. I love them equally and they all have their own needs. I spend quality time with each, support each one, but dicipline is different, the type of attention is different. Our son (10) needs us to physically play with him – like taking him swimming or playing ball. My daughters (all teens) need us to listen to them playing music right now, or sitting one on one to discuss friends, boys, school, etc… our youngest daughter is really stubborn and has a temper, our oldest is EASY to parent – she is a people pleaser and hates being in trouble. I have to adjust to each of them and give them what they need individually. If I didn’t discipline our youngest when she didn’t control her temper – just to be fair because I don’t have to discipline her sister hardly ever – she would have major problems as an adult. I can’t treat all my kids the same all the time – but I give them all 100% of my love and I’m here for them in whatever capacity they need me.
I think this is the most important philosphy to have as a parent – that you treat kids as individuals – what works for one probably won’t work for all.

Hope I could help!