Permissive Parenting
June 17th, 2010
Are you a permissive parent? Do you allow your child/children to do whatever pleases them? Are you a drill sergeant or do you fall somewhere in the middle?
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mia0899cs said:
I agree that many kids are disrespectful and that has to do with the laws changing. People are afraid to spank their kids. I don’t believe that hitting is the solution. However, there were many kids in junior high school who I feel deserved it.
dustinfromak said:
I was mostly raised by my grandparents because my mom was working alot when I was a kid and I was beaten when I was out of line, not like badly but I would know what ever it was that I did it was wrong and not to do it again. I have grown up like this my whole life and I see why it has somewhat worked. I see some of the people my age and how they disrespect their parents or how they back talk their parents; It’s sad to see the parents do nothing,
mia0899cs said:
I think it’s horrible to slap a child in the face or ears. I think when they are toddlers, a pat on the butt isn’t child abuse. I prefer a time out. I also think children should be treated with respect and positive reinforcement works the best. However, parents want to be friends with their children and this is a problem. Children need boundaries and need to know that the parent is in charge. It’s fine to play games with your children, but you are here to teach them right from wrong.
smmeegal said:
no-one else is allowed to pull their kids up about their behaviour either. Consumerism has replaced common sense unfortunately a lot o people think we need to go back to the ‘good ole days’ when you just hit a child, hardly a good form of communication, wonder how many kids that were slapped round the lughole ended up with ear damage. I find kids respond best when they are treated as intelligent beings not ‘just a kid’ who must obey adults, they r then part of the positive process & it works.
smmeegal said:
A lot of wealthy parents dont discipline their kids they just buy them stuff. A lot of parents dont talk to their kids on an equal level. You can discipline your kids without physically assaulting them. Kids seem to like being treated with some respect and being able to make choices and communicate about issues like disrespect. I see plenty kids who are just doing what they want when they want, lazy parenting I call it. They cant be assed to deal with crap behaviour so it escalates. I’d noticed
mia0899cs said:
I agree with you. The problem comes in with the schools actually talking about child abuse. Children think they can’t even be smacked because schools educate them this way. I’ve heard this from my 8 y.o. son. I’ve also heard him say he could sue me if I hit him. I don’t have to put up with abuse and I won’t. I know someone who was a foster mom and then adopted the 3 kids. She will smack her kids and she knows the law. I do see parents that have no time for their kids.
FunNotNuts said:
If we as adults put up with any kind of abuse be it verbal, emotional or physical, then our children feel it is ok to be abusive to us in that fashion.
We also have to do enough research to find out when children are ready to understand certain levels.
Teachers do not feel it is their job to parent the children. They are there to teach kids various subjects and try to make sure they pass.
Parents seem to have no time for their kids yet we breed like rats. We teach them nothing.
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mia0899cs said:
Interesting and I believe it. I have met these kids.
thainformer said:
Of all the kids I’ve worked with, the ones that are being raised thru permissive parenting (aka no discipline) have always been the most obnoxious and unruly kids. More so than the street kids or juvi hall kids I have worked with.
mia0899cs said:
Thank you so much!
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mia0899cs said:
Thanks!
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mia0899cs said:
I have to agree with you. I know when I was working, I felt guilty too. I had to because I am the head of the household. So, I think I did put up with more. So, I am probably an inbetween parent. My son kept on interrupting yesteday when I was trying to get the results from the pool H20 being tested, and I told him the third time to shut up. Now, the first time I said, “Excuse me, James” and the second I said something similar. We weren’t supposed to interrupt adults. I said I was sorry.
tkdqueen1 said:
I feel that parents now are scared to discipline their children, and a lot of guilt also plays into parents being permissive. I know so many parents that let their kids walk over them because they don’t want the child to be “mad” at them. Couple that with the parent works and feels guilty for not being home with them. It’s a deadly combination. When I was teaching preschool I saw children SPIT purposefully and skillfully in the middle of their parents face, and the parent just took it!
mia0899cs said:
I can believe that. These kids are spoiled and can do nothing wrong. They tell my son what isn’t cool to wear. I buy him decent clothes and these kids expect him to dress like a thug and they are white from middle income families. The one kid, Josh, who is 12 is the one who thinks he is tough. He said that I listened to ancient, old music. Led Zeppelin old?
1smartmommy77 said:
Firstly, nobody calls biracial people Mulatto anymore. Well people racially aware don’t. What you are describing is not a symptom of permissive parenting, it’s a symptom of neglect or just not caring if their kids are unkempt.
Lewismadmax said:
I disagree, I have a sister-in law with mixed kids (malatto; black and white), I see kids in their neighborhood that are 9 years old and dont even wipe there noses, they run around with crap on their clothes and snot on their face, it is not a racial thing, it is a social and cultural thing. These people dont teach their children how to live or act socially….but the gangs will!
notlqueen said:
ITA
notlqueen said:
I wanna hug you! Omg what you wrote is soooooooooooooo true! People say inner city kids are the toughest to work with. I teach in the projects and they are FAR easier than upper class kids cuz upper class kids have no discipline these days. Glad to hear you’re a common sense mom!
notlqueen said:
Most of the time ADHD labeled kids are not really ADHD, nor do they need Ritalian (kiddy crack) instead they need a change in diet. I completely agree with you toolgirl!
toolgirl150 said:
oh my, yes, he needs to be tested to see where he is at in terms of intelligence level. Smart kids can bore very easily in regular school.
Oh and Im anti meds for kids unless it painfully clear that they need it and it is giving results. I really have a problem with kneejerk diagnosis and giving kids meds when the problem should be solved other ways. That’s just lazy. (how come all the hot topics gravitate to your channel? LOL You do a good job of moderating these topics though!)