Good Parenting

We all know that parenting comes from the heart. It requires keen observational skills, and that laziness should not apply. Why, then, do parents still use parenting books and guides? The answer is simple. They do not trust themselves. Their mothers and fathers raised them on instinct, with a little help from Grandma or Uncle so and so.

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Is there a problem with the latest generation of parents? It seems that even with parenting guides and whatever guidance they get from their parents, the latest batch of kids are not turning out that well. Are these new parents just lazy and giving in to whatever whim the child wants? If that is the case, the parent is not putting any limits on the child. They are not instructing the child in what she cannot do. We like to say that if one puts their mind to it, anything can be accomplished. However, there does need to be limits. Yes the child should know that she can be a doctor and dare to dream, but she does also need to know that it is not correct to be rude in public and conduct inappropriate behavior.

When the parenting actually does come from the heart, the child gets the idea. A conscience is formed and the child will be able to tell right from wrong. It will develop naturally. When a parent is not involved and just wings it on a day to day basis, then the child gets the idea that the parent does not seem to care whether their daughter is in her bedroom or at the mall. The childÂ’s moral compass is not guiding them in the correct direction and neither are the parents. No limits are set for the child and that gives that parent a disadvantage. The child believes that there is literally nothing she cannot do and will do it, without the benefit of a conscience.

This is how ruthless ambition is created. It is a good thing to have dreams and ambitions, but it is not a good thing to achieve those goals at whatever the cost. The child, now adult, will not know that she is doing anything wrong because that is how she has always behaved and knows no other method for accomplishing her goals.

Parents, please pay attention to your child. If you need to enlist the help of an outside source, then do it, but please listen to your heart. Use your observational skills and please (and I know this is hard) try not to be lazy regarding parenting. If you think it requires an extra effort, then it probably does.

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This entry was posted on Friday, March 12th, 2010 at 9:03 pm and is filed under Good Parenting.