Good Parenting

We have all been their from the moment our second child was born, from bringing the little bundle of joy home to the anticipation of what will their brother or sister think.

Age gaps play a big part in slibling rivalry. Resent research shows that a four year gap could possibly cause more conflict from the start.Their is no correct answer to the perfect age gap.How could we do the best from the begining.I wanted to share my experience with you,to prove your not the only ones out their stood between two children with your hands holding your head thinking oh god not again.Sibling rivalry is normal theirs nothing we can do to escape it but theirs some ways to cope.

Getting your child to express their feelings is a good start.If they look mad and sound mad about the situation tell them you have noticed.My two boys were up stairs playins on their game, the fighting started then the screaming, time for me to go up stairs. Its nearly impossible to find out what and who started it. Speaking to my eldest child asking him why they were both mad each other letting my eldest child express himself and tell me why he was feeling that way opens a calmer gateway to the problem they both wanted to play different games at  the same time.To comprise is a hard lesson to teach my eldest child relented he relised this for himself and agreed to let his brother play his game first for half an hour my youngest agreed and pace was restored.

To keep the ball rolling try not to compare your children to each other often things are said without thinking saying things like why can you be more like your brother will often end in resement and jealousy. When they at logger heads try not to take sides this will also have the same affect.Sometimes it helps to stand back and let them fight out their own differences,of course if the fighting is physical then you would have to intervene but when they are arguing the are learning to develop other skills used latter on in life.It might not sound like it at the time but if they can sort it out themselves its a good step in making their relationship better and learning from each other. There is no miracle cure for sibling rivalry and it will be with us till the end of time but its nice to know your are not alone and maybe this will help you on your way to making you have a better understanding of the little treasures.